At one point I realized that my expectations became so invisible in my life that I didn’t even realize the stress that they were causing me. The fact was that I was voluntarily doing this to myself.
Two words fixed my expectation problem…
before you can fix the problem you need to see it…
Here let’s take a look at my kids. I do A LOT of cleaning up after them.
Sometimes when I am cleaning up I feel irritated that I am once again cleaning. I try and work on getting the 5 year old to help pick up but that’s an iffy battle.
Once in a blue mom I get that ok mom but usually it’s the just can’t do it because my toe fell off type deal. Which then adds to me even being more irritated. Then my husband gets home from work and i’m already irritated and you guys know how it goes…
Really the irritation comes from an expectation.
Maybe not realizing it I have an expectation of how things should be. Maybe I finally thought I had a chance to watch one show tonight…
Or that I really wanted to send those last couple of emails out…
NOW IMPORTANT PART HERE:
If you find yourself in the situation already this is just a way of trying to come out of it in a better place/mood. Not a you have to be wonder woman and do it all.
those two words…
You really wanted to add that client and didn’t get her.
That really does sucks.
Have faith in the path you’re supposed to walk down. You don’t know why you weren’t supposed to get that promotion so have faith that there are other things in motion.
Maybe just maybe ( i’m not holding my breath here now) when I clean up the legos this time next time it does click for my little builder. Either way being in a better place doing it I can explain things to him without the “angry mom” voice that usually just makes me feel guilty.
I have faith in my path and everything, no matter how small, is still a step down that path.Click To Tweet
We tend to have things all figured out in our heads. When what’s in our heads doesn’t match whats going on in the real world we find ourselves wishing/wanting things to be different.
Don’t go there. Have faith.
It’s perfectly fine to have goals and shoot for something but don’t let your expectations lead you astray. Everything happens for a reason.
Accept things as they are. Just by waking up this morning you’ve been given a blessing.
Remember to come back to that.
Let go of your expectations of how anything should go or be and just have faith in how things as they are…