Patience – it’s just one of those things kinda like time we never seem to have enough of.
So let’s keep it simple…
let’s start with what we already have…
1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind.
Sometimes it’s just as simple as remembering how much we love someone. If we love them that is patience and kindness. Loving our kids or other people is a great way to build from within.
The best thing about it is love is actionable.
It’s not this uncontrollable feeling that we have that shows up whenever it wants too. If we treat (that’s an action) people with patience and kindness that’s love.
We are all human and entitled to making mistakes.
So let’s start small and not worry about every little mistake that happens. We can worry about all the other “to-do’s” like the food prep and the quick outfits that look incredible that take 30 seconds to throw together eventually…
Right now let’s just work on being patient..
just do three things…
Let go of perfection.
You’ve already got that in the children you have. That includes the smelly, sticky, God only knows why this kid is screaming, whatever is in their hair and everything else perfection 🙂
Accept your not perfect and neither is anyone else so be perfectly fine with that.
So the days you’re running late, no clue what to make for dinner, should have had the kids ready 30 minutes ago, realize you didn’t comb your hair… it’s fine 🙂
This is something I am terrible at. I know it seems like it would be something everyone can do because we do talk to people just every day.
I tend to already be thinking about what i’m going to say or thinking about the next event I need to get schedule or the next order that needs to be placed… and I’m starting to get anxious about all that I have to do.
Instead start really listening when someone talks. Hear what they are saying and try repeating the words if you need to be re-focused when your mind is wandering. Let it truly be a two way conversation with an open mind – don’t just focus on your way of looking at things.
People come in and out of our lives for a reasons and if we are focused on what we already know we might miss something’s true value…
Choose something different.
Losing our patience is a voluntary choice. We CHOOSE to put ourselves in that state. Instead choose to take a couple deep breaths or redirect completely by just think of something different for a minute.
For me if I think about my cousins grandmother…
This tiny little lady who was just the stereotype grandma. One night we had a bonfire at our house and there she was in a plastic white chair by the fire…
Of course she tips backwards. All you see are these TINY little feet kicking in the air and this little voice just laughing hysterically. The chair is wiggling side to side and people are running to help tripping over stuff in the dark…
Just the quick image of the little feet kicking or thinking about a fun time with the kids is enough to kinda jolt my mind in a different direction and put me in a better mood.
Give yourself a minute. We’re not perfect so it’s ok to lose it just think of it as a perfect way to practice being patient – after all practice makes progress now doesn’t it!!